Breaking up is not always the easiest thing to do, and it sometimes comes with regret. Bustle, and marriage therapist Sophia Reed, PhD, have a few questions that you can ask yourself to help you decide if breaking up was the right choice.

  • Did you think it through? Or was the decision to break up made quickly and under stress or during a heated argument? If your emotions were running high when you broke up with your partner, you may not have thought about the break up all the way through. Think about it now, and what it really means to no longer be with your partner.
  • What do your friends think? If they are feeling relief for you, that might be a good sign that you made the right decision. Good friends will tell you how they really feel, and if your friends are happy that you are no longer with your partner, that might be a sign that they were not the right person for you.
  • Is the reason you broke up really important to you? Because there are some hills that are worth dying on, and some that are not. If you broke up with your partner because you were sick of his dirty socks all over the house, was that really a deal breaker to you? Think long and hard about what it was that you broke up over and if it was really the hill you want to die on.

You might just be mourning the end of your relationship, or might have genuinely made a mistake in breaking up with your partner. Think long and hard about them and the situation and how you were feeling at the time, and hopefully you can decide for yourself whether or not it was a good idea to end your relationship.

(via Bustle)