Weddings are stressful enough without having to please every single one of your relatives. And, heaven forbid you want your special day to be for adults only.

It has been a source of conflict for as long as I can remember. So, How do you handle it?

We've heard horror stories about awkwardly-worded wedding invitations and guests who refused to get the message. Some brides pass the task off to their wedding planners. But one thing you should know is that you're not making an unreasonable request.

We asked Lizzie Post, co-author of "Emily Post's Wedding Etiquette," for her advice on the most polite way to ask guests not to bring their kids to your wedding. "It is perfectly all right to have an adults-only wedding," Post says.

Even people who sincerely love children do it, for a variety of valid reasons. You just need to be careful about how you communicate your wishes to your guests, she explains. But first, here's what you shouldn't do ... Don't just write "no kids allowed" or "adults only" on the invitation. Instead, start by addressing the invitation just to the parents, using their names.

Of course, people don't always pick up on that subtlety, so here's what you do next. When your guests return the RSVP card with the names of their children written in (or "Peterson, party of 5!"), call them up to clarify. Post recommends starting with something like, "'I'm so excited you can make it to my wedding! However, I think there may be some confusion. We've chosen to have an adults-only wedding, so..." (Thestir.cafemom.com)