What You Don’t Owe Your Parents
It can be tough to object to your parents or tell them "no" to do something, but despite the fact that they may (or may not have) raised you, you don't owe them anything. Bustle and Carrie Krawiec, a licensed marriage and family therapist, have a few things to remember that you specifically don't owe to your parents.
- The life that they want for you which they most likely have been piecing together since you were in the womb, but you allowed to live your life exactly how you want to regardless of how your parents may feel about it.
- Time and that can be a hard thing to realize, but if it's a challenge because of distance or schedule or it's affecting your mental health in order to please your parents, then you shouldn't go out of your way to see them.
- Help can be a big sticking point with your parents if they ask for a lot of favors. If you can assist them in setting up their new cell phone or picking up something at the store on your way to visit them, great! If they expect you to leave work early or quit your job all together and move closer to them in order to take care of them or another loved one, understand that you don't have to do it.
You love your parents, but you don't have to be stressed out or be rife with anxiety just to please them. You don't owe your parents anything, and that's something to remember the next time they try to guilt you into doing something.