What Does “It’s Not You, It’s Me” Actually Mean?
No one ever likes getting broken up with, but have you ever heard the phrase "It's not you, it's me"? Bustle, and Shannon Thomas who is a trauma therapist, explains exactly what that phrase really means if someone says that to you while breaking off the relationship.
While being broken up with is one of the worst feelings in the world (especially if you really like the other person), having the honesty to admit that it's not you, it's them, can be really refreshing instead of blaming the other person for their short comings.
As someone doing the dumping, it does take a lot of courage to break up with someone when you're aware that you aren't quite ready for a committed relationship. If you're getting broken up with, you should be able to appreciate that the other person did not waste your time when they weren't 100% committed to dating you.