We are our own worst critic when it comes to how we look or the things that we do. Bustle and Dr. Carla Marie Manly explains that there are ways in which we see ourselves through a very subjective lens that others don't see us through.

  • We minimize our abilities when it comes to what we do well we often downplay those accomplishments and talents but play up the abilities of others. Putting ourselves down can be an unattractive trait and something that a perspective job interviewer would take as a reason not to hire you. We all need to be more confident!
  • We make unfair comparisons with others about how we look or what we have the ability to do. It reduces our self-esteem significantly when we compare ourselves to those around us instead of learning to be happy with our own appearance or learn to become better at the skills that we envy in others.
  • We project our insecurities onto other people as well. If you don't like someone like the boyfriend or girlfriend of one of your friends, but you don't want to admit to feeling that way then you might just convince yourself and others that it's them who doesn't like you.

It's okay to be insecure or to judge yourself, but when it starts to affect how others are being treated, you may want to try and change your behaviors and work on yourself to be the best version of yourself that you know how to be.

(via Bustle)